Dating in america

I couldn’t her to flirt: I couldn’t force her to do what she wasn’t comfortable doing.

Knowing that I couldn’t physically escalate just yet, I decided to move the discussions into other sexual topics.

I mentioned how I don’t believe in not having sex before marriage because I view sex as a fundamental part of any relationship (I mentioned at least 50%).

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It’s the natural outcome of what happens when two people who are attracted to each other meet and display this attraction to each other. It’s been established that you both like each other.

It’s a sexually-charged private conversation between two adults, not a watered-down public discussion that’s designed to be displayed to the entire country on a morning talk show. That’s why you go out to a bar or a club after a hard day’s work: to let your rational mind take a break and enjoy an emotional conversation with a beautiful woman who you want to take home—and who wants to be seduced and taken home by you as well. You’re not on some public talk show on primetime TV.

Southern European cultures have pretty tough and “masculine” women; the stereotypical traditional Italian wife, for example, is very “tough” and “ball-busting” as demonstrated by her ability to run the house hold and even control her tough Italian husband. I wanted to put American dating under the microscope and study it like a scientist who studies microorganisms in his science lab.

The explanation that American women are “masculine” was way too simplistic and not good enough. On my recent trip to New York, I had some free time and decided to use it go out to bars and meet women. So, I forced myself to forget everything that I I knew about American women and dating in order to learn and relearn everything from the ground up.

Can you imagine sitting across the table at a bar from a sexy Brazilian/Colombian/Russian girl and having a rather serious and formal conversation about some sexual topic? So, why keep it politically correct and continue discussing the pros and cons of some mundane topic?

After mutual interest is established, the next step is to immediately move onto more interesting and physical things. In America, you don’t get out of this discussion phase. It requires a certain level of confidence and self-esteem. On the other hand, a discussion about generally accepted things isn’t risky and therefore doesn’t require much confidence.

My dilemma was that I could never rationally understand why dating is so confusing and complicated in America.

Lots of explanations are given by lots of people, but none of them truly explain the whole story.

A person’s opinion can be strong, weak, or somewhere in between.

One thing is always for sure: when you have an opinion, you’ll always want to defend it; you’ll want to prove to others that opinion is correct and someone else’s opinion is wrong.

This naturally leads to people wanting to endlessly discuss all kinds of topics (how many times have you heard the pseudo-expression “let’s keep an open dialogue”? And that opens the door for more and more discussions. I first eased into “safe” and boring topics like work and travel.

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