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But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes.As a psychiatrist in Los Angeles and in my workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet remaining single for years.Your space needs can vary with your situation, upbringing, and culture.

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Then intimacy can flourish, even if you’ve felt suffocated before.

Prospective mates or family members may seem like emotional vampires when you don’t know how to broach the issue of personal space. You may be thrilled about your beloved until you live together. I prefer having my own bedroom/office to retreat to. One patient told her boyfriend, “I need to disappear into a quiet room for ten minutes at a party, even if I’m having fun,” a form of self-care that he supports.

If you’re an empath or if the ordinary expectations of coupledom don’t jibe with you, practice the following tips. Tips for empaths to feel at ease in a relationship: Tip 1. As you’re getting to know someone, share that you’re a sensitive person, that you periodically need quiet time. Nothing personal; they just like their own sleep space. Feeling trapped in bed with someone, not getting a good night’s rest, is torture. Even if my partner’s vibes are sublime, sometimes I’d rather not sense them even if they’re only hovering near me. Traveling with someone, you may want to have separate space too. ___ Judith Orloff MD is author of the New York Times Bestseller (Three Rivers Press, 2011), upon which this excerpt is based.

The right partner will be understanding; the wrong person will put you down for being “overly sensitive,” won’t respect your need. Energy fields blend during sleep, which can overstimulate empaths. I’m not just being finicky; it’s about maintaining well-being if I live with someone. Whether my companion is romantic or not, I’ll always have adjoining rooms with my own bathroom. An Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry UCLA, Dr.

The thought of being married but alone is not something I was prepared to handle. You see, I don’t remember the exact point in time, perhaps 5 years into our marriage, but I started catching myself fantasizing about other women – sexually and otherwise.

Don’t get me wrong, my love for my wife didn’t just disappear into thin air.

The good news is, we live in a new world where virtually every person can obtain satisfaction outside their marriage.

It can be done with the utmost discretion and attention to one’s privacy.

In “Emotional Freedom” I describe empaths as a species unto themselves.

Whereas others may thrive on the togetherness of being a couple, for empaths like me, too much togetherness can be difficult, may cause us to bolt. We tend to intuit and absorb our partner’s energy, and become overloaded, anxious, or exhausted when we don’t have time to decompress in our own space.

One empath-patient told me, “It helps explain why at thirty-two I’ve only had two serious relationships, each lasting less than a year.” Once we empaths learn to set boundaries and negotiate our energetic preferences, intimacy becomes possible.

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