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In the wake of its publication, churches held purity conferences, purity balls, and had teens take purity pledges.

My own parents vowed that their children would never date, we would court, as laid out in Harris’ book.

The approach Harris offered was a way forward that bypassed the physical possibilities.

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I also read some of In the spring of 2013, I started a hashtag #noshamemov (short for No Shame Movement) so that people would have a platform for sharing their stories of growing up in purity culture. In the 3 years I’ve been doing this, lots of folks who shared their stories point to IKDG as either central or playing a significant role in how purity culture was enforced.

It came up so often I finally decided to check it out from the library.

It’s fostered the sort of shame that follows me into my relationship now, and it makes me angry at how dating or relationships without marriage as a pre-determined point, let alone sex or any kind of physical affection, were robbed of any joy for me.

It’s like a low level noise of distrust and anxiety that some would probably call the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

, Elizabeth Esther tweeted that she never went to prom because of her Fundamentalist upbringing.

In response, one of her followers tweeted that she didn’t have a prom because of Joshua Harris, the author of the influential book was published in 1997 and quickly became a hit among the Evangelical crowd.I was in high school when it came out, and many of the concepts around gender dynamics and “purity” were part of my upbringing.I think that was probably why I avoided it for so long.I remember seeing the cover, and thinking how cool it looked, tipped fedora and all.The sepia tone seemed romantic, and maybe, when you’re an awkward, depressed teen, that’s all you need to convince you of purity culture: it seems romantic.And though he was interested in marriage, I was sure we were too young to go ahead (we weren’t). During my most vulnerable years, I was separated from the American evangelical purity culture industry by ethnicity, denomination, and continent.

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