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"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.

Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend.

It's great—except that you have no idea where things stand.

He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it.

Talk about blurred lines."Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or action that can 'get' someone to commit," says Terri Trespicio, a lifestyle and relationship expert based in New York City. One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.

However you can use these tips to subtly up the chances that he'll want to turn casual dating into something more. And never tell yourself, "He's a nice guy and has done nothing wrong, so I guess I should be with him." "That's convincing yourself of something that's probably not right," Trespicio says.

"Explain what kind of relationship you want and why, defining what commitment means for you without giving an ultimatum." If he isn't open to a discussion, let him mull it over for a couple weeks.

But if he still doesn't respond when you bring it up again, it may be time to rethink the relationship.

Make an effort to do these things on a regular basis, but also make sure you're showing your selfless side when you're with him.

When you're a kind and gracious person, men (and women) are more likely to want to be around you—both consciously Think beyond dinner and after-drinks for your next date.

In a recent British study, people rated potential sexual partners to be more attractive for a long-term relationship if they had altruistic qualities.

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